Hubby

I Love him so much. He is so great. He could tell that I was stressed out so just before we put K to bed he told me to just go away for awhile by myself. I left at 8 and just got back. I went and powerwalked around Walmart and did a little shopping. I was going to wait until I had lost 10 lbs to buy myself some decent workout pants and a good sports bra. But he said I was close enough so I should go ahead and get them now. So I did. I got 3 pairs of knit pants that have a drawstring waist, 1 gray and 1 blue for $3 each and 1 black with pink stripes for $10. I got a pink sports bra that is kinda like a regular bra. I also got some regular cotton underwear for working out because I don't like to wear my "good" underwear during my workout. I got myself 2 3lb hand weights. I already have 5 and 10 lb ones but I wanted some 3 lb ones for the bicep exercises because my biceps are already big. I don't want them to get much bigger, just more defined. I got some candy for hubby as well and a few grocery things that I needed. I have a bunch of recipes I want to make but I lacked some of the spices. I tried to figure out the last time I was by myself for more than a couple minutes without either kid and not having to work, do housework, or go to an appointment and it was awhile ago. So long ago that I can't even remember when it was. So anyway I am feeling much better and hubby said that he wants to figure out some sort of schedule were I can get a couple hours to myself once a week or over a couple days. I think that is wonderful of him considering that he goes to work all day (not that I don't work here) and then comes home and gives me a break. I couldn't ask for a better hubby really. He said that I have the harder job out of the 2 of us and I deserve a break. He said that he gets breaks everyday and I should at least be able to get a couple hours a week. I love that man. He totally gets it!!!

What had me so stressed out was K's little attitude today. She didn't like anyone or anything. She was hitting, kicking, throwing toys at all of us and just doing everything that she knows she is not supposed to, stuff that she NEVER does. She ended up getting put in her crib (luckily we never took it down after we moved her to the toddler bed) for a time out. I spanked her twice for throwing her toys and hitting her sister. She was deliberately hitting her sister. I don't like to spank her but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. I am not against spanking as a form of discipline but I try not to use it. I have and I will continue to do so. I do not feel that 1 swat on the butt is child abuse. I know that some of the "parenting gurus" will have you believe that spanking your child will damage them psychologically, but I can tell you that I was spanked, often with a belt, and I turned out fine. I will not use a belt on my child however. Counting does not working with K because she will just finish the count for me (GRRRRR!!), time outs do not work because she likes being by herself. Taking toys away does not work because she just doesn't care if I do that.

Christmas Eve

hubby and I stayed up way too late talking and just enjoying each other. We rarely get the opportunity anymore to just talk and share with each other. We had the chance so we really took advantage. We were both exhausted yesterday but it was totally worth it.

We talked about our plans for the future, our relationship, etc. I love when we are able to do that. We learn alot about each other that way.

my knee

hubby has had numerous knee problems. He knows how to massage it to make it feel better so after an 800 mg ibuprofen and a knee massage (he threw in a foot massage too!) I am feeling better. It still hurts but not as bad.

cuddling

Tonight Hubby and I had to opportunity to cuddle on the couch for a short time. It was nice. No lights on, just a candle, and the 2 of us. No kids crying or talking. It was a well needed rest after O's antics today. O is just a baby but she was whiny and fussy today. Normally O is a happy baby. She only cries when wet, poopy or hungry. She doesn't even cry when she is gassy. We couldn't figure out what was wrong with her. We tried everything and finally just left her alone for a short time while we ate dinner. That must have been what she wanted because she fell asleep after fussing for a couple minutes. She is a strange baby. She has a definite personality about her already. She has times where she just does not want to be held. She wants to be laid on the floor on a blanket and left alone. K was never like that. It is simply amazing how different these 2 are even that this young age.

had a date

Hubby and I had a date last night. We had dinner and then we stopped at the bar for a drink. My 10 year class reunion is this summer and we had a little get together last night because some of our classmates that live out of state are home for the holidays. It was nice to see some of them. Most I don't really care to see. Hubby and I had one beer and then we left. It was nice to be able to talk to each other without having a kid interrupt us. Don't ge tme wrong, I love our kids, but sometimes I need to spend time with just hubby.

A spin off from Jenera's post

http://jenerahealy.blogspot.com/2007/12/lucky-or-naive.html

Jenera, I hope you don't mind that I linked to your post ;)

A woman that I respect once told me that every man cheats on his wife. This really took me back. I mean, I NEVER in a million years would have thought of her husband as a cheater. She told me it was years ago and she kicked him out when she found out but then took him back later, for the kids. This really changed my thinking on the woman for numerous reasons. Even though she is still a friend, I think differently of her and her husband.

R would never cheat on me. I can say that honestly and truthfully. He knows full well the consequences if he were to and there would be no taking him back. I would not tolerate that. We discussed it before we had kids. We both said if we found someone else that makes us happier, we would not cheat we would just leave. Harsh, I know but I want him to be totally honest with me. I would rather have him leave me for another woman than to started married to me, sleeping with me, and sleeping with someone else also.

I am totally in love with my husband. Even though I may get irritated with him at times, I still love him. We don't always agree but we never fight. I could not picture my life without him. I would not forgive him though if he cheated, no matter the circumstances. I would also not cheat, no matter how tempting an offer may sound, because I know that my husband is faithful and in love with me and completely trusts me and I love him.